"But He knoweth the way that I take: when He hath tried me, I shall come forth as gold." - Job 23:10
We've all heard it, what doesn't kill ya makes you stronger. But I'm hear to add to that, what you go through can make you gold.
Sometimes things in life work out the way you thought they would, and sometimes, they just don't. Sometimes one hard thing after the other seems to keep happening. But you know what I've learned from that? It is your perspective. Two people could experience the same things in life, yet they can turn out completely different. Why is that? Is one worth less than the other? No. It was their perspective, and their choices, and one chose to come forth as gold.
We all face these things called trials and tribulations, ups and downs, whatever you want to call them. A refiners fire. In life sometimes we have to get burned. But you know what? Gold needs heat to form into its beautiful warm luster, and so do we.
In my life I have experienced many different hardships and trials, but I see that there is so much more good from them than there is bad. My trials, your trials, they are blessings. It can be hard to see that. But they are. See how you have grown because of them, see how you have changed, what you have learned, what is better now because of them? Look. They are there.
Each day brings challenges, but each day brings so many more blessings, and some of those blessings come from those challenges.
I'll give you an example. Heck, I'll give you two.
My laptop is breaking, the screen is going out, & yeah it sucks because it puts me behind on my editing, and it's going to cost me a lot of money to get something new. BUT GUESS WHAT. It's a blessing. This trial is literally a blessing. How? Because if my laptop hadn't broken, I wouldn't be sitting here typing on my husband's computer writing this blog post. I wouldn't have rekindled my desire to write publicly again, to blog, something I did when I was 12. I would have been editing on my laptop instead. I wouldn't be investing to buy a new computer that will be better suited for me and something I'd rather have than my laptop. You see? Trials push you into something better, at least they can if you let them. Trials bring showers of blessings.
Let me add something to that too: complaining does not help. You may think it makes you feel better, it doesn't, it puts you in a bad mood and brings others down with you. Complaining isn't choosing to see the good and to change, it's dwelling on the bad. Negativity halts progression.
Another example, this ones a little deeper folks.
Anxiety. Such a fun word. Well, I've got it. At times I hate it, I hate having it, and dealing with it every. single. day. But anxiety too, is a blessing. It keeps me close to Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ. It helps me understand their love and His Atonement to enable me to change and be better. It helps me be more cautious and careful and safe. It helps me be aware of others and myself. It helps me be strong because it gives me opportunities to choose faith over my fears and doubts. Having anxiety is a weakness that gives me strength. It's so weird.
"And if men come unto me I will show unto them their weakness. I give unto men weakness that they may be humble; and my grace is sufficient for all men that humble themselves before me; for if they humble themselves before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become strong unto them." -Ether 12:27
I've come to God. My trials humble me to choose to see good and change rather than dwell on the bad. I choose to do what I can with the situation given me and not give up. When you choose that, you will become strong. You will become gold.